When flirting, it is important to be aware of these cues, both in "reading" their body-language and in controlling the messages you are sending with your own gestures.
In conversation, gestures are mainly used to enliven, clarify and "punctuate" our speech, or to show understanding to what the other person is saying. In a flirtatious encounter, the amount of gestures, the directions of the gestures and the co-ordination of gestures can indicate the degree of interest and involvement your partner feels towards you.
Generally, however, someone who is interested in you will be more lively and animated in conversation, using more gestures when speaking in order to keep your attention, and more responsive gestures to show interest when you are speaking.
Similarly, you can signal in your partner, and keep their attention focused on you, by enhancing your speech with appropriate gestures: shifting your hands or head slightly at the end of sentences, using downward hand movements to emphasise a point. When your partner is speaking, you can show responsiveness by nodding in agreement, throwing up your hands in surprise, bringing them together in a "silent clap" of appreciation, etc.
Nodding can be used to control conversations. If you make single, brief nods while your partner is speaking, this a simple signs of attentiveness, which will maintain the flow of communication from the speaker. Double nods will change the rate at which the other person speaks, usually speeding up the flow, while triple nods or single, slow nods often interrupt the flow altogether, confusing the speakers that they might stop in their tracks. So, if you want to express interest and keep them talking with you, stick to brief single nods.
You can also watch for gestures which indicate anxiety and nervousness, such as hand-clasping movements and palm-rubbing. Basically anxious gestures are directed towards the anxious person's own body, while movements, directed away from the body, are a sign of confidence. As well as watching for these signals in your partner, you can control the impression you are making by using more confident, outward gestures.
As with posture, the greatest involvement and harmony is achieved when gestures of one person are echoed or reflected by the other. You may have noticed that this tends to happen a lot between people who like each other. Watch lovers in a bar or pub, and you will see that they often tend to lift their drinks and sip at the same time, and that many of their other body movements and gestures will be similar.
You can use this technique as a highly effective flirting technique. If you feel the conversation is not flowing easily, or seems awkward and uncomfortable, try to be more sensitive to the patterns of their gestures and body movements, and to reflect these in your own body language.
If the person that you are flirting with begins to copy their body language with yours, this is a sign that they are comfortable with you. Do not assume that this necessarily indicates sexual interest.
Female hair-flipping and head-tossing were among the gestures most often regarded as sexually flirtatious, along with repeated leg-crossing and movements designed to draw attention to their breasts.
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