Basically, you can flirt with more or less anyone. An exchange of admiring glances or a bit of light-hearted flirtatious talk can brighten the day, raise self-esteem and help you make friends. Flirtation at this basic level is harmless fun, and no one could possibly have any objections.
Do not intentionally flirt with people who are married or attached. Most people in long-term relationships can cope with a bit of flirting, and may even benefit from
knowing that others find them or their partners attractive, but couples differ in their tolerance of flirtatious behaviour, and it is important to be alert to signs of discomfort or distress.
Men have a tendency to mistake friendly behaviour for sexual flirting. This is not because we are stupid or deluded, but because we see the world in more sexual terms than women.
Women need to be particularly careful to avoid sending ambiguous signals in interactions with married men, and men need to be aware that married/attached males may misinterpret friendly behaviour towards their wives/girlfriends. Otherwise, light-hearted flirtation is both harmless and enjoyable.
INTENTIONAL FLIRTING:
But flirting is also an essential element of the mate-selection process, and when you are "intentional flirting", rather than just 'flirting for fun', you need to be a bit more selective about your choice of target.
In looking for a mate, follow these two basic rules about who to flirt with and you will increase your chances of success and reduce embarrassing
rejections.
1. Do initiate flirtation with people of roughly the same level of attractiveness as yourself?
Women are more critical of their own physical appearance than man. This is partly because beauty standards for males are much less than for females, and a wider variety of shapes and features are considered attractive. But some men are also inclined to overestimate their attractiveness. If you are honest male, and do not consider yourself good-looking, remember that most men lack expertise social interaction, so polishing up your flirting skills could give you the edge over a more handsome rival.
2. Don't flirt with people who are unlikely to return your interest.
Even if you are not looking for a long-term mate, you will enjoy flirting more with someone who is interested in you. So it makes sense to approach people who are likely to see you as at least a possible partner, rather than those likely to dismiss you as unsuitable.
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