FLIRTING TIPS - TALKING

TALKING: No one can tell you exactly what words to use, when flirting, but it is possible to provide some general guidelines on what to talk about, and how to express yourself, particularly in terms of mistakes and pitfalls to avoid.

Here is a list of real turn-off's:
(1)Being negative, talking too much about the bad side of life, and constantly complain about the world or your own problems.

(2)Talking too much about yourself and showing too little interest in others.

(3)Only talking about superficial things, repeating jokes and stories.

(4)Talking too slowly, pausing too long, taking too long to make a point.

(5)Failing to take full part in the conversation or express opinions.

(6)Talking in a monotone, not making eye-contact, expressing too little emotion.

(7)Using a serious tone of voice and expression, even when your partner is trying to be light-hearted or humorous.

(8)Easily sidetracked, engaging in meaningless chatter, too much slang.

Compliments, are almost always welcomed, and do not have to be witty or original. Do not be afraid of paying simple compliments such as "That's a nice jacket" or "That colour really looks nice on you", as they can be very effective.

Clearly, excessive use of compliments will make you seem artifically sweet, and the person you are flirting with might get bored with too much overwhelming niceness. Of all the ways you can bore someone, this is the least offensive way.

As a matter of basic social skills, males should avoid paying women embarrassing or offensive compliments. Some men need to learn that it is entirely possible to convey to a female friend or acquaintance that you find her physically attractive, without being rude.

A simple, admiring comment such as "You look lovely" or "You look pretty" or "You look stunning" is enough. Anything more detailed will cause embarrassment or offence. Make sure that the body-language is right as well: address the compliment to her face, not to her chest and without your eyes travelling up and down her body.

There are times, places and situations where a comment on a woman's appearance, no matter how innocent, would be inappropriate and potentially offensive. Only comment on a woman's appearance

(1) if you know her well enough and not as an opening line.(2) At times, places and situations where appearance is relevant - i.e. where it would be acceptable to comment on a man's appearance. If the situation is not one in which you would compliment a male acquaintance on his flattering new jacket or haircut, do not comment on a her appearance either.

Do not comment on a woman's figure unless you know her well, this compliment might please a girlfriend or close female friend.




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