FLIRTING TIPS- LISTENING

LISTENING: Being a good listener have a distinct advantages in the flirting game. Even though this helps being a good listener is more than shutting up and letting the other person talk. Good listening skills is essentially about giving feedback, which involves giving both verbal and non-verbal signals to show that you are paying attention, and interested.

Effective body language signals are nodding, smiling, responsive facial expressions and leaning forwards. Good verbal feedback signals include the use of expressions such as "mm-hmm", "yeah", "mmm", "ah" to show agreement or interest and to encourage the other person to continue talking.

These basic feedback signals are highly effective in winning friends and influencing people. Even just a few nods can significantly improve your chances when flirting.

Another effective listening technique is to "paraphrase". To show that you are paying attention and interested, and to encourage your partner to continue talking, occasionally sum up what they have said, as in "…so you are enjoying your vacation?" Paraphrasing is very helpful if your partner seems a bit shy, insecure or anxious, it will make them feel more confident about talking to you.

You may have noticed that the question at the end of the "paraphrasing" example was an "open" question, rather than a "closed" question which requires only a yes or no response. If you want to encourage your partner to talk, try to ask more open questions, such as "What kind of food do you like?" than closed questions such as "Do you like Chinese food?"

Open questions begin with one of the following words: Who, What, When, Where, How, Why. Open questions are effective in informal social conversation - particularly in flirting!



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