Many flirtatious encounters are merely brief encounters that help boost the ego. These light-hearted encounters are part of normal social interaction, and only the pathetic or desperate would believe that flirting is the leds to marriage.
Flirting would not be important it did not occasionally serves some more long-term purpose like sex, reproduction, etc. While it is okay to practice our flirting skills just for the fun of it, there will be some occasions when we wish to take the relationship further, and a "Nice meeting you" will not do. This is when the parting words and gestures that you use is important.
People who are in sales knows that there is little point in establishing a great relationship with potential customers, attracting their interest, gaining their trust, etc., if they fail to get the customer to sign on the dotted line. To help them achieve this all-important goal, sales people are specifically trained in how to close a sale.
Likewise, if you are really attracted to your flirting partner, and want to see them again, none of the flirting skills you have read will be much use unless you can close effectively. In this case, your goal in closing is to meet them again.
At the risk of rejection, this is when you must be clear about your wishes. Subtle hints and positive body-language will help you to get to this point, and observing your flirting partner's reactions will tell you if you are going to be successful. By themselves these techniques cannot get you their phone number or a date! You have to ask for their phone number or a date by using the most effective flirting strategy which is simple honesty. You don't have to oversell the idea, just ask: "Would you like to meet again? Maybe sometime next week?" (the exact words are unimportant, but make it a clear request). If you are nervous making a date, say something like: "Perhaps we could meet again sometime - could I have your phone number?"
It is perfectly acceptable for women to take the initiative in asking men out. Men love it when women take the initiative. Men perceive women who take the initiative as more sexually available. To put it more bluntly, if a woman asks them out, they think they have a better chance of "getting lucky".
If you are female, and you don't want to give this impression, offer your own phone number. Say something like: "Maybe we could have a drink sometime? - here's my number". This makes it clear that you are interested, but still that he takes the initiative in asking for a date.
Flirting has been part of human behaviour for thousands of years, and men have always tended towards an over-optimistic interpretation of female signals, and females will always adjust their signals to encourage only selected males.
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